When Pete walked in the door, he could plainly see that Sarah, his wife had been hard at work. Not only had she been hard at work, but she was also stressed. The tension in her energy was so thick you could cut it with a knife. She had been struggling with a new project, doing all that she could to get it off the ground. Although he was tired himself, Pete went over and began to softly massage her shoulders.

After a few minutes of rubbing her shoulders, he gently kissed her on the crown of her head and said, “I love you sweetheart.” As he turned to walk away, he noticed a tear rolling down her face. He wiped the tear and asked what was wrong. She was so overcome with emotion that she began to weep even more.

He held her with a warm embrace and said, “I’m here for you babe.” He continued to hold her while gently rubbing up and down her back. Once she gathered herself, she began to explain how she was feeling discouraged because nothing seemed to be working. He listened closely, careful not to interrupt.

Once she was done speaking, he said, “I’m sorry Love. Is there anything that I can do to help?” It was then that she looked up at him and proclaimed, “you already have!” What Sarah needed wasn’t direction. What she needed was to know that someone cared. She needed someone to be there. She wanted to know that she wasn’t alone. That gave her the strength she needed to keep moving forward.

“What does this have to do with making love, you ask?” It has everything to do with making love. Making love isn’t having sex. Having sex is having sex. Making love is showing another that you are there and that you care. We all encounter challenges in hardship whether on the job, in business or in everyday life. It helps to be reminded that we’re not alone. Not in the sense that misery loves company, but in a sense that you don’t have to face your troubles alone.

Do you want to become a better lover? You can start by paying attention. Manage to get outside of your own troubles enough to be there for someone else. When you make eye contact, you have the opportunity to truly look into the soul of someone else. What you’ll find there may speak far greater than words ever could. The connections that you make in these moments can forge a bond that cannot be broken.

Completely give yourself to your partner. Try to feel their pain as if it were your own. Take the time to be there and offer to help if you can. Now you are truly connected. Now you are making love!

Eric L. Lipsey
www.TheLink.biz